Here’s How You Can Still Smile Even When Around Negative People

You believe in being positive – it keeps you healthy. You think love and happiness are worthy of your time and energy. You also want to avoid depression or keep yourself from regressing into the doldrums. However, you find it hard to stay in the positive zone when there are people around you who drag you into negativity. Their own personal issues are weighing on you and are actually making you negative, to your horror.

Although you can always choose to avoid these people, there are some cases and situations where this is not possible. Case in point: some of those people are members of your own family. So, how do you preserve your own bubble of positivity and joy despite the presence of grumpy people?

Understand What Makes Them Tick

Instead of reacting to the other person, seek to understand his motivations for his actions, where those are coming from. Don’t take the negativity personally. Was he saying that line because he actually hadn’t had a bite to eat yet since he began working today? Could he be grumpy because he got into an argument with his wife or parent earlier that day? Or is he about to face a stressful situation (termination, operation, evaluation, etc.)?

It also helps to look into the person’s family background and upbringing. Is the reason the person curses so easily because he grew up in a rough environment? Could the person’s perfectionism or critical nature be due to a parent who also expected no mistakes from him?

When you understand what makes the person(s) tick, you are more able to anticipate their negativity and figure out how to deal with them without aggravating the negativity. You are also less likely to be irritated, as a result, because you already see things coming and have already mapped out a strategy in turning things around.

Adjust Your Perception

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Remember that half full-half empty glass of water experiment indicating whether you’re an optimist or a pessimist? The way you perceive the world and people also reflects what’s going on inside you. If you want to stay on the positive track, you should be seeing the positive side of situations or people more. You can even do this perception shift as a self-development exercise. When watching a movie, for example, you can practice on various adverse scenarios playing out on the screen by asking yourself what good could come out of those scenes or what’s the good side of them.

Infect Them with Positivity

When a negative co-worker or friend starts whining or being grumpy about something, why don’t you crack a witty joke or line to get them smiling a bit? Or you can share to them the positive side of whatever it is they are griping about. You can also opt to lend a listening ear or suggest solutions. You can praise whatever good the person did. Do this consistently and you’ll unwittingly turn that negative into another positive.

Keep a Like-Minded Friend Near When You’re Around Them

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For tough cases, especially when you feel you unravel every time you’re with those people. you may need the help of another person who is into positivity. This way, you don’t get the brunt of the negativity and have someone else share the load with you, so to say. Also, a companion can help back you up on what you say to the negative person and leverage your position so you don’t feel bullied.

Work Out Your Own Issues

In the long term, resolving your own issues is one of the most effective ways to keep yourself happy despite being surrounded by negativity. Find out why you get affected by certain words, things, and behavior. What makes you feel the way you do? What are your worries concerning what such people do to you? Once you know yourself better and resolve your own issues, you are more capable of deflecting negative arrows coming your way. Also, you can anticipate your emotions in certain situations and strategize how to deal with them or turn them around even before you’re smack right in the middle of a negative scenario.

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