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How To Raise Successful Children?

A precise recipe for raising successful children doesn’t exist. However, many psychologists point to a handful of factors that can predict success. Would you be surprised to find out that much of it depends on the parents? Here are their pieces of advice.

Make your child do the chores

 

If children aren’t doing the dishes, then someone else is doing that for them. But why should anyone do their dishes if they are old enough to do it by themselves? If they are not doing the chores, then they are not learning that work has to be done and that each one of us must contribute in the house.
Psychologists believe that children raised on chores go on to become employees who collaborate well with their coworkers. Furthermore, they become more empathetic because they know what real struggle looks like. They are also able to take on tasks independently before getting the assignment from their bosses.

Teach your child social skills

More than 700 children from across the US were subjected to research by psychologists from Pennsylvania State University and Duke University. They were observed from the time they joined kindergarten to the time they were 25 years old. The psychologists found a correlation between the social skills of kindergartners and their success as adults. They also revealed that socially competent children who could cooperate with their friends and resolve problems on their own were more likely to get a college degree and have a full-time job by the age of 25. On the contrary, it was the exact opposite for those with limited social skills. They had a higher chance of getting arrested and becoming drinkers.

Have high expectations

Professors from the University of California at Los Angeles conducted a national survey among 6,600 children born in 2001. They discovered that the expectations parents hold for their kids have a huge effect on the children’s accomplishments. The study showed that parents who saw college in their child’s future were able to direct him toward that goal disregarding their income and other factors.

 

Parents should have a healthy relationship with each other

Robert Hughes Jr stated that some studies have found that children in nonconflictual single-parent families feel better than children in conflictual two-parent households. He also said that the conflict between parents before divorce affects children negatively. Furthermore, post-divorce conflicts have a strong influence on children’s adjustment.
Research has also shown that people who have experienced the divorce of their parents as children still remember the emotions they used to have even ten years later.

Teach your kids maths the moment they become able to learn it

 “The paramount importance of early math skills — of beginning school with a knowledge of numbers, number order, and other rudimentary math concepts — is one of the puzzles coming out of my study,”  Greg Duncan.

 Duncan adds, “Mastery of early math skills predicts not only future math achievement, but it also predicts future reading achievement.”

 You should develop a quality relationship with your children

Children who received “sensitive caregiving” in their first three years are better in academic tests in childhood. They also have healthier relationships and greater academic achievement after their 20’s. Parents who are sensitive caregivers “respond to their child’s signals promptly and appropriately.” They also “provide a secure base” for children to explore the world.

Don’t be too nervous!

Did you know that if a parent is exhausted or frustrated, that emotional state of mind could transfer to the kids? This is called emotional contagiona phenomenon where people “catch” feelings from one another. So, if your friend/parent is happy, that will infect you. Likewise, if he’s sad, that will also be transferred to you.

Always be aware that you are a role model to your child!

Can you see those tiny eyes looking at you and absorbing your every word and attitude? Don’t be surprised if your child gets the same habits and attitudes towards life as you do. This is normal!. Therefore, if you don’t like some of your habits, don’t make them in front of your child. Otherwise, you will have more habits to be annoyed about within your household.

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