Recovering From A Condition Will Only Work When Positivity surrounds you
We live in a world where people around us do not always agree with our opinions or sing our praise. We also cannot please everyone. Often, there comes a time when we know we’ve made good decisions and wise choices, yet there are those who seem to think otherwise. Whenever we find ourselves in our most vulnerable state – like when we’re on our road to any recovery – we easily become affected by negativity. Perhaps an inner voice could be asking us if we’re really worth something or whether there’s hope.
All such doubts being planted by negative people around us could make life difficult. But it doesn’t have to be that way. While we may not be able to avoid such people, we can very well do something to turn the situation around in our favor. We can lessen the impact of negativity in our lives. There is simply no stopping your recovery process from a loss, sickness, or condition if you’d just learn to adopt these guidelines.
“Negativity is the enemy of creativity.” – David Lynch
What should be your perspective?
It is all a matter of perspective. Although it is easier said than done, you truly have the power to change how you think, even when you’re in a healing stage. If you cannot seem to stop negative forces from surrounding you, try to develop these outlooks:
Don’t view negative people as hindrances to recovery
It’s totally normal to cry and let it all out whenever you feel deeply affected by someone’s actions or words. Individuals who do not approve of you or your decisions cause you hurt. However, look at each situation as an opportunity for you to grow and keep on healing. No matter how determined they are to put you down, you have the ultimate power to deflect the negativity. Look at these stressful situations as learning potentials from where you can pick up a thing or two.
The truth is, they somehow envy you
Most people who are insecure and frustrated in life find someone else to take the beating. In other words, they project their frustrations towards people by being disagreeable, mean, and at times unreasonably harsh. When you see the situation from this perspective, you become more tolerant and understanding instead of feeling bad about yourself.
They serve as a way of gauging your success
Since most people who have nothing good to say likely harbor feelings of envy, it can be a telltale sign that you are doing a good job in whatever you’re undertaking. Sometimes, such individuals derive great pleasure from seeing you all flustered and affected by their criticism. They want to test what you’re made of. Well, whenever this happens, look the other way and be assured by the thought that you’re doing something right and that you’re on the right track.
Allow them to teach you
Adversity should serve to teach us something in life. It should not be seen as an enemy but a teacher. In fact, every person that walks into our lives imparts to us a learning whether we are conscious of it or not. Negative people are no exceptions because they teach us to be strong, to examine ourselves carefully, and see what we need to improve on.
What do you need to do?
After adopting certain perspectives to arm us against negative people, how do we now deal with negativity whenever it comes knocking on our door? It is very simple but highly effective.
Resist the urge to judge
Train yourself to be accepting of people and not to pass judgment. You can make it easy by thinking the same thing if you were on the other side and the one being negative towards a person. Wouldn’t you want others not to judge you as well? Don’t take things so personally that you become defensive and secretly form your own nasty opinion of the negative person.
When you don’t judge, you learn to be more understanding and compassionate of people. It’s very well a case of putting yourself in their situation to know where they are coming from and why do they behave in such a fashion. If you keep at it, you might just be able to indirectly help these people realize what they’re doing and make them take positive action.
It applies to you and the people around you. We know this is not an easy thing to do, especially if the person is succeeding in making you angry, sad, or frustrated. Just remember to give yourself a break and do some soul-searching and positive self-talk. Temporary self-pity may be unavoidable, but it should only be a brief stage that allows you to proceed to the self-acceptance state. And because you should not pass judgment on the people who hurt you, learn to forgive them eventually. Forgiveness is always liberating and opens doors to self-improvement and happiness.
The positive and significant people in your life will help you stay focused and determined. No amount of discouragement should let you fail in what you have set out to do – recover, make a new life, do something great. When you’re grounded, you are steady and have a firm grip no matter how hard the negative wind blows.
“Seeing the glass as half empty is more positive than seeing it as half full. Through such a lens the only choice is to pour more. That is righteous pessimism.” – Criss Jami